Most people are aware of curated personas people create for social media. They allow people on Instagram and Facebook to share all of the good and fun parts of their life, while neglecting to reflect the bad parts. And now the Rev. Nadia Bolz-Weber is explaining why that’s more detrimental than you might think.
“It’s always only partially true,” Bolz-Weber tells Makers. “And maintaining this created personality — this assembled self — could be pretty exhausting.”
Through mediums like Snapchat, where people are constantly posting while simultaneously filtering out things they choose not to share, it’s easy to see how tiring this can get. However, the founder of House for All Sinners and Saints says that it’s even destructive to relationships.
Although choosing not to share certain wounds is often a way to keep yourself protected, Bolz-Weber says that social media has allowed people to overcompensate to the point where we’re left alone.
“We’re left in the aloneness of never really being known,” she says. “In the end, the only real love in the world is found when you let yourself be truly known.”